Choice Of Words In Communication

Recently, I realised thoroughly on the importance of " Choice Of Words " in life or in communication. My current Manager, is a very knowledgeable and caring person, he always shared with us the importance of " Choice Of Word " in daily life, he emphasized it to us on and off, he practised it in his daily life, he even correct our " Choice of Words " many times.................. He acts like a Grammarian in my life, on my poor English sentence construction and vocabulary. I must thank him for being so willing to share and to correct me on my mistakes. I appreciated it very much.

From his succeed in his communication with people, his relationship with others ( ex-colleagues, people around him, anybody even cleaner or passer by like a waiter in the restaurant, he also practise his good PR and " Choice Of Word " everyday, every minutes in his daily life ). I actually learnt a lot from him and I take him as my role model in life. I exampled him as my mentor, for my problem, my language barrier, my life phylosophy and etc. Of course, he is not perfect, he also has his shortage but still, overall, he is a nice old man to be friend.

The best part of him is he likes to compliment people, he loves to praise people, no matter when, where and doing what. For example, he will praise me when he walked into office " Hey, you look very fresh this morning ! Morning fresh ! " with a smile, that's made my day ! Not because that I crave for his compliment, just that by having such statement, he makes someone feel good and really fresh.

He always start his conversation with good words / praise or compliments first. Like everytime before he starts his conversation, he will say something like this : " Your centre looks pretty neat, you must have spent a lot of time in keeping it. " or " Mr Khung, from your outlook, I believe you must be a very experienced and professional trainer who really care of self image as your first impression to me was really impressive ! ". Things like this, really make people feel fantastic !!!

He is good at this skill. I really learnt a lot from him secretly and after working with him for sometime, I noticed that I started care and mind my language already. I will notice sometime after I said something, I found that I could construct my sentence in a better phrase and make the people who is listening to me to feel better, eventhough for a comment or recommendation to others, we could also tell it in a very sweet way. Aren't we learn this from Toastmasters too ??? Yes, we learnt how to give constructive feedback to members, we learn to evaluate people in a nice way, not white washing, but a real sincere feedback without hiding any facts, the real message have been conveyed and at the same time, didn't hurt people.

I try to sharpen my " Choice of Word " in my daily communication too in order not to hurt the people around me, especially my hubby !!! This morning, I got hurt again by his sharp words................... " My mum only has one box, you don't even can tolerant with this ? " What is this .............. I took so much trouble and effort, sweat, pain to clean up the Store Room, at the end, I got only this comment from my loved one. How hurt it is ???? Aren't we both also Toastmasters, aren't we practise what we learn in Toastmasters in life, especially the evaluation style in Toastmasters. Still remember the " G.L.O.V.E " concept that you share with me ? Or the burger concept apply in Toastmasters ?

Dear, shall we start to practise this in our daily life too ? This is not about ruling, it's more towards a better relationship. I care of you so much, very much, that's why I care of everything you do for me, every words you say, it's not I want to give you pressure like has no even freedom to talk and have to be careful when talk to me, just that do care about my feeling, I felt hurt easily, this is because I care so much.

Many times, in the morning, I was angry with you quietly, but everytime, when I walked into our bedroom, I saw you have helped to make the bed neatly, all my anger went off immediately. The same happened this morning. Everytime I looked at the bed, I told myself, what to angry anymore ? I have such a good and caring husband, who there to help to make bed in the morning, who helped me to cut vegetable, who helps to pick up my hairs drop in the toilet, who cooked me ' yong sam sou ' when I am sick, who cared of me so much, who takes the trouble to purposely come down to the car park to fetch me, who bought my favourite fruit - Dragon Fruit for me as a surprise gift, who massage me after I finished all the house work, who washes dishes after dinner, who made cereal for me in the morning, who eats vegetables that he doesn't like, who forcely finished whatever I have cooked just to make me happy and to appreciate my effort to him, who cares so much of me, what more to complaint ? What more to comment ? I am ' xin fu ' enough to have such a husband with me for my rest of life ..............................really, dear, many times, I was so happy when I walked into our bedroom, everytime I stepped into the bathroom, really, all these small action or effort in life do counts, it counts, I feel so sweet many times because of all these small small contributions that you have done for me, it really affects, I care of all these, it makes a difference in our life, it do makes me love you more and more and more ..............................