Recently, I realised thoroughly on the importance of " Choice Of Words " in life or in communication. My current Manager, is a very knowledgeable and caring person, he always shared with us the importance of " Choice Of Word " in daily life, he emphasized it to us on and off, he practised it in his daily life, he even correct our " Choice of Words " many times.................. He acts like a Grammarian in my life, on my poor English sentence construction and vocabulary. I must thank him for being so willing to share and to correct me on my mistakes. I appreciated it very much.
From his succeed in his communication with people, his relationship with others ( ex-colleagues, people around him, anybody even cleaner or passer by like a waiter in the restaurant, he also practise his good PR and " Choice Of Word " everyday, every minutes in his daily life ). I actually learnt a lot from him and I take him as my role model in life. I exampled him as my mentor, for my problem, my language barrier, my life phylosophy and etc. Of course, he is not perfect, he also has his shortage but still, overall, he is a nice old man to be friend.
The best part of him is he likes to compliment people, he loves to praise people, no matter when, where and doing what. For example, he will praise me when he walked into office " Hey, you look very fresh this morning ! Morning fresh ! " with a smile, that's made my day ! Not because that I crave for his compliment, just that by having such statement, he makes someone feel good and really fresh.
He always start his conversation with good words / praise or compliments first. Like everytime before he starts his conversation, he will say something like this : " Your centre looks pretty neat, you must have spent a lot of time in keeping it. " or " Mr Khung, from your outlook, I believe you must be a very experienced and professional trainer who really care of self image as your first impression to me was really impressive ! ". Things like this, really make people feel fantastic !!!
He is good at this skill. I really learnt a lot from him secretly and after working with him for sometime, I noticed that I started care and mind my language already. I will notice sometime after I said something, I found that I could construct my sentence in a better phrase and make the people who is listening to me to feel better, eventhough for a comment or recommendation to others, we could also tell it in a very sweet way. Aren't we learn this from Toastmasters too ??? Yes, we learnt how to give constructive feedback to members, we learn to evaluate people in a nice way, not white washing, but a real sincere feedback without hiding any facts, the real message have been conveyed and at the same time, didn't hurt people.
I try to sharpen my " Choice of Word " in my daily communication too in order not to hurt the people around me, especially my hubby !!! This morning, I got hurt again by his sharp words................... " My mum only has one box, you don't even can tolerant with this ? " What is this .............. I took so much trouble and effort, sweat, pain to clean up the Store Room, at the end, I got only this comment from my loved one. How hurt it is ???? Aren't we both also Toastmasters, aren't we practise what we learn in Toastmasters in life, especially the evaluation style in Toastmasters. Still remember the " G.L.O.V.E " concept that you share with me ? Or the burger concept apply in Toastmasters ?
Dear, shall we start to practise this in our daily life too ? This is not about ruling, it's more towards a better relationship. I care of you so much, very much, that's why I care of everything you do for me, every words you say, it's not I want to give you pressure like has no even freedom to talk and have to be careful when talk to me, just that do care about my feeling, I felt hurt easily, this is because I care so much.
Many times, in the morning, I was angry with you quietly, but everytime, when I walked into our bedroom, I saw you have helped to make the bed neatly, all my anger went off immediately. The same happened this morning. Everytime I looked at the bed, I told myself, what to angry anymore ? I have such a good and caring husband, who there to help to make bed in the morning, who helped me to cut vegetable, who helps to pick up my hairs drop in the toilet, who cooked me ' yong sam sou ' when I am sick, who cared of me so much, who takes the trouble to purposely come down to the car park to fetch me, who bought my favourite fruit - Dragon Fruit for me as a surprise gift, who massage me after I finished all the house work, who washes dishes after dinner, who made cereal for me in the morning, who eats vegetables that he doesn't like, who forcely finished whatever I have cooked just to make me happy and to appreciate my effort to him, who cares so much of me, what more to complaint ? What more to comment ? I am ' xin fu ' enough to have such a husband with me for my rest of life ..............................really, dear, many times, I was so happy when I walked into our bedroom, everytime I stepped into the bathroom, really, all these small action or effort in life do counts, it counts, I feel so sweet many times because of all these small small contributions that you have done for me, it really affects, I care of all these, it makes a difference in our life, it do makes me love you more and more and more ..............................
Tuesday, June 10, 2008
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
Always Expect The Unexpected
This title - Always Expect The Unexpected - has really reminded me of my very very long time philosophy, which I have nearly forgotten. Always expect the unexpected to be happened in life.
Yes, if all of us manage to live life without any expectations, then everyday is a happy day. I have really forgotten about my this philosophy. Last night, after my Toastmasters Meeting, once I got on to my car, I can't wait to hear my darling's voice. Called him while driving. He sounded so excited on the phone by asking me where was I. I told him I just started my journey back home from my Club and it will take a while.
With this small question from my dearest hubby, I EXPECT him expecting my arrival at home. I was so happy and wish to reach home faster. After I turned into the Guard House, I drove slowly and kept my eyes around, trying to capture the body shape or face that I was eagerly wish to see. Looking around, eyeing around by driving damn slowly, not next to the Guard House, not next to any cars in the covered car park, hmmmmm............ until I reached my car park lot, still I didn't see anyone around. Ok, then I told myself, he might be slow a bit as I told him I won't be arriving so fast................... so, I quickly get down of my car and walked towards the lift. The street seems very dark and quiet as usual, which I hate this kind of feeling. Too quiet, too scary to me as I seldom or I avoid to reach home after the sky gets dark as I hate to walk alone to the lift.
As I was walking towards the letterbox area, I still didn't see him. Then I think, he might be hiding somewhere and try to scared me and play with me, I kept walking and turn around to see my left and right, front and back. Ok, very sure, there is no one around. Ok, my last expectation is he might afraid that he might missed me, then he is waiting for me at the lift.
Nope, no one around again. Another disappointment ! Okay, I told myself again, he might think that I might be late coz it's quite a distance from my Club back home. Lift is coming down from 13th Floor, 10th floor, 8th floor, my another expectation is telling me to EXPECT the lift might stop at 3rd floor and I might be able to see my hubby's face once the lift opens. Oh oh ! Nope again, another disappointment !!!! The lift opens and no one was inside the lift.
OK, then I wish I could reach home safely coz it's really late at night already. The lift door closed and oh oh, I hate this, I hate to see this, the lift stops at 1st floor, the door opens and the thing that I hate happened, a man, an Indonesian thin man walking towards the lift and he stood next to me, hate to have this kind of feeling, alone in the lift, with an Indonesian guy. I told myself, not to be scared, as two more floors, I will be reaching my home. The lift door closed, oppppsss.......... nope, how come the guy didn't pressed the floor number that he wish to go, hmmmm.......... suddenly, the news in newspaper came into my mind, nope, nope, don't think of all the bad things, nope nope nope ................... before the lift door fully closed, I have hope. Someone outside was trying to come in, I was so happy that someone could be with me in the lift......... I quickly press the ' open ' button and see who was there outside. Firstly, I saw a man's shirt, oh no, don't tell me that there is another Indonesian guy coming in .............. nope nope nope..................... please, don't .............................. huh !!!! After a second of negative thinking, I saw a familiar face, it's Jacky, the Nasi Lemak shop owner. I was so glad that he accompanied me in the lift and escort me home. Thanks, Jacky !
But still, the Indonesian guy still didn't press the floor that he wants to go................ then my feeling tells me again that he might be the neighbour who stays opposite our house, those Indonesian family. The lift door opens, I walked out and he also followed me walked out, I walked towards my house direction, he also walked towards the same direction, I kept turning my head behind to see if he is taking a key, if yes, that means he is staying here, otherwise......................... luckily, yes, he is our neighbour next door. Huh ! So relief ! I was so relief and I quickly open my house door and went into my house.
I then only saw my lovely hubby coming towards the door to welcome me. Huh ! But suddenly, due to all the ' pressure ' or ' stress ' in the lift, my emotion again lost control and I complaint or scolded my hubby for not coming down to fetch me. His face turns black immediately........... and went into the room without saying anything............... I also don't know since when he becomes so narrow hearted and gets angry easily........................
Then, I spotted that two persons were in the house, no one cares at all what is happening in the house. The shirt racks that I pulled into the living hall in the morning before I stepped out to work, were there remained. No one cares to even open the glass door and let some fresh air coming into the living hall, no one cares to bother to pull the shirt rack to the balcony, it is just like it's okay, no problem............................... remained everything and just pretend didn't see.
I walked into my room, the curtain has never been opened, again, no one cares.................. immediately, my temper comes and can't control my face muscle and it just go down and long, my face turns black again. As I was having fever since I was in the club meeting and kept on coughing and have running nose, I quickly get myself settled down by washing my face, bath and so on. My hubby didn't even ask a word and just lying down on the bed, I know he is angry with me.
But I know he is still trying his best to figure out what has happening to me and why my face was long and black, he tried to tackle me by saying : " Dear, can you please come over and let me hug you ? " Wow ! I was waiting for this statement everyday, how nice if everyday my hubby have such request. How much I grave or how much I wish to hear this everyday - again, another EXPECTATION ...................... but sorry, my dear, you requested it at the wrong timing, my running nose was so serious at that time, I can't even control my running nose as the water keeps coming out from my nose, and I am in fever. The only thing that I wish to do now is to wash my face, shower and then take medicine. OK, I know, you got angry with me again for not attending to your request and just told you to wait for a while. But I really can't tahan with my uneasiness and my sickness, dear !
Then you start mumbling yourself, again, turn your body to the other side and sleep. I really can't tahan this kind of action, this kind of reaction to me, come on lah, be a bit understanding, be a bit caring, be a bit detailed and asked at least : " What happen, dear. Not feeling well ? " Nope, nothing from you at all, except another long black face turning your body towards the other side of the bed and sleep.
You saw me eating medicine and without asking any question. My anger was boiling and I can't tahan. OK, finally, after I quickly get myself ready and go to bed and try to get myself cool down and talk to you, as I know, I was wrong at the first point as I shouldn't show you my temper once I stepped into the house. So, I am ready to say sorry to you.
I look at your backside, you didn't move, I called you once " Lao Kong ", no response. I waited for a while, " huuuu.................. huuuu.................. " the snooring sounds is the only voices in the room. I know you don't care and what can I do, it's all my own EXPECTATION, I shouldn't have such EXPECTATION by EXPECTING you to ask me : " Dear, how's your meeting ? " " What gets you so angry ? Anything happen ? Mind to share with me ? " " Who bully you, tell me and I will settled for you ? " " Why you eat medicine ? Not feeling well ? Wanna me to bring you to see doctor ? "
No, nothing from you at all, except the snooring sound. I know, I shouldn't have such EXPECTATION.
That's why I told you this morning that it's my very own problem, I need to settle it myself, I need to learn how to control my emotion in order not to make you angry.....................
But I asked myself another question : " If the only man in my life don't care about me or if I can't EXPECT the man who sleeps next to me on all these small little things, who else can I EXPECT ???? or who else shall I share all my happiness and sadness to ?????????????
I EXPECT you know the only person in this world who could affect my emotion is ONLY YOU ! I EXPECT you know there is nothing happen in this world could make my temper changes, except YOU !!!! Still remember, whatever happen in my office or Toastmasters or my family, I will share with you, on good or bad thing, I have never throw my temper at you for all these things, except YOU could juggle my emotion .................. dear, you might not realised yet how important you are to me...............................................
Zero Expectation Is Always The BEST !!!!!
This title - Always Expect The Unexpected - has really reminded me of my very very long time philosophy, which I have nearly forgotten. Always expect the unexpected to be happened in life.
Yes, if all of us manage to live life without any expectations, then everyday is a happy day. I have really forgotten about my this philosophy. Last night, after my Toastmasters Meeting, once I got on to my car, I can't wait to hear my darling's voice. Called him while driving. He sounded so excited on the phone by asking me where was I. I told him I just started my journey back home from my Club and it will take a while.
With this small question from my dearest hubby, I EXPECT him expecting my arrival at home. I was so happy and wish to reach home faster. After I turned into the Guard House, I drove slowly and kept my eyes around, trying to capture the body shape or face that I was eagerly wish to see. Looking around, eyeing around by driving damn slowly, not next to the Guard House, not next to any cars in the covered car park, hmmmmm............ until I reached my car park lot, still I didn't see anyone around. Ok, then I told myself, he might be slow a bit as I told him I won't be arriving so fast................... so, I quickly get down of my car and walked towards the lift. The street seems very dark and quiet as usual, which I hate this kind of feeling. Too quiet, too scary to me as I seldom or I avoid to reach home after the sky gets dark as I hate to walk alone to the lift.
As I was walking towards the letterbox area, I still didn't see him. Then I think, he might be hiding somewhere and try to scared me and play with me, I kept walking and turn around to see my left and right, front and back. Ok, very sure, there is no one around. Ok, my last expectation is he might afraid that he might missed me, then he is waiting for me at the lift.
Nope, no one around again. Another disappointment ! Okay, I told myself again, he might think that I might be late coz it's quite a distance from my Club back home. Lift is coming down from 13th Floor, 10th floor, 8th floor, my another expectation is telling me to EXPECT the lift might stop at 3rd floor and I might be able to see my hubby's face once the lift opens. Oh oh ! Nope again, another disappointment !!!! The lift opens and no one was inside the lift.
OK, then I wish I could reach home safely coz it's really late at night already. The lift door closed and oh oh, I hate this, I hate to see this, the lift stops at 1st floor, the door opens and the thing that I hate happened, a man, an Indonesian thin man walking towards the lift and he stood next to me, hate to have this kind of feeling, alone in the lift, with an Indonesian guy. I told myself, not to be scared, as two more floors, I will be reaching my home. The lift door closed, oppppsss.......... nope, how come the guy didn't pressed the floor number that he wish to go, hmmmm.......... suddenly, the news in newspaper came into my mind, nope, nope, don't think of all the bad things, nope nope nope ................... before the lift door fully closed, I have hope. Someone outside was trying to come in, I was so happy that someone could be with me in the lift......... I quickly press the ' open ' button and see who was there outside. Firstly, I saw a man's shirt, oh no, don't tell me that there is another Indonesian guy coming in .............. nope nope nope..................... please, don't .............................. huh !!!! After a second of negative thinking, I saw a familiar face, it's Jacky, the Nasi Lemak shop owner. I was so glad that he accompanied me in the lift and escort me home. Thanks, Jacky !
But still, the Indonesian guy still didn't press the floor that he wants to go................ then my feeling tells me again that he might be the neighbour who stays opposite our house, those Indonesian family. The lift door opens, I walked out and he also followed me walked out, I walked towards my house direction, he also walked towards the same direction, I kept turning my head behind to see if he is taking a key, if yes, that means he is staying here, otherwise......................... luckily, yes, he is our neighbour next door. Huh ! So relief ! I was so relief and I quickly open my house door and went into my house.
I then only saw my lovely hubby coming towards the door to welcome me. Huh ! But suddenly, due to all the ' pressure ' or ' stress ' in the lift, my emotion again lost control and I complaint or scolded my hubby for not coming down to fetch me. His face turns black immediately........... and went into the room without saying anything............... I also don't know since when he becomes so narrow hearted and gets angry easily........................
Then, I spotted that two persons were in the house, no one cares at all what is happening in the house. The shirt racks that I pulled into the living hall in the morning before I stepped out to work, were there remained. No one cares to even open the glass door and let some fresh air coming into the living hall, no one cares to bother to pull the shirt rack to the balcony, it is just like it's okay, no problem............................... remained everything and just pretend didn't see.
I walked into my room, the curtain has never been opened, again, no one cares.................. immediately, my temper comes and can't control my face muscle and it just go down and long, my face turns black again. As I was having fever since I was in the club meeting and kept on coughing and have running nose, I quickly get myself settled down by washing my face, bath and so on. My hubby didn't even ask a word and just lying down on the bed, I know he is angry with me.
But I know he is still trying his best to figure out what has happening to me and why my face was long and black, he tried to tackle me by saying : " Dear, can you please come over and let me hug you ? " Wow ! I was waiting for this statement everyday, how nice if everyday my hubby have such request. How much I grave or how much I wish to hear this everyday - again, another EXPECTATION ...................... but sorry, my dear, you requested it at the wrong timing, my running nose was so serious at that time, I can't even control my running nose as the water keeps coming out from my nose, and I am in fever. The only thing that I wish to do now is to wash my face, shower and then take medicine. OK, I know, you got angry with me again for not attending to your request and just told you to wait for a while. But I really can't tahan with my uneasiness and my sickness, dear !
Then you start mumbling yourself, again, turn your body to the other side and sleep. I really can't tahan this kind of action, this kind of reaction to me, come on lah, be a bit understanding, be a bit caring, be a bit detailed and asked at least : " What happen, dear. Not feeling well ? " Nope, nothing from you at all, except another long black face turning your body towards the other side of the bed and sleep.
You saw me eating medicine and without asking any question. My anger was boiling and I can't tahan. OK, finally, after I quickly get myself ready and go to bed and try to get myself cool down and talk to you, as I know, I was wrong at the first point as I shouldn't show you my temper once I stepped into the house. So, I am ready to say sorry to you.
I look at your backside, you didn't move, I called you once " Lao Kong ", no response. I waited for a while, " huuuu.................. huuuu.................. " the snooring sounds is the only voices in the room. I know you don't care and what can I do, it's all my own EXPECTATION, I shouldn't have such EXPECTATION by EXPECTING you to ask me : " Dear, how's your meeting ? " " What gets you so angry ? Anything happen ? Mind to share with me ? " " Who bully you, tell me and I will settled for you ? " " Why you eat medicine ? Not feeling well ? Wanna me to bring you to see doctor ? "
No, nothing from you at all, except the snooring sound. I know, I shouldn't have such EXPECTATION.
That's why I told you this morning that it's my very own problem, I need to settle it myself, I need to learn how to control my emotion in order not to make you angry.....................
But I asked myself another question : " If the only man in my life don't care about me or if I can't EXPECT the man who sleeps next to me on all these small little things, who else can I EXPECT ???? or who else shall I share all my happiness and sadness to ?????????????
I EXPECT you know the only person in this world who could affect my emotion is ONLY YOU ! I EXPECT you know there is nothing happen in this world could make my temper changes, except YOU !!!! Still remember, whatever happen in my office or Toastmasters or my family, I will share with you, on good or bad thing, I have never throw my temper at you for all these things, except YOU could juggle my emotion .................. dear, you might not realised yet how important you are to me...............................................
Zero Expectation Is Always The BEST !!!!!
Monday, May 5, 2008
Since Long I Didn't Write My Blog ....................
Hey, all my Blog friends ! How's everybody ? ( It seems like I have a lot of Blog fans .............. hahhahhaah.............. in fact, only myself............... even my hubby also didn't log on to my Blog to read )
Really a lot of things happen recently in life. My last update on the Blog was far behind on 3rd August 2007 where I am still a girl and now, I am writing at an identity of Mrs Wong. Yes ! Within this half year, from August 2007 till May 2008, I have made a very big decision for my life - to marry a man !!!
Hhahhahaa............. as such, I am now no longer " Miss " or ' Girl ', I am a woman ( real woman ) whom carrying someone's surname in front of mine. Or in Chinese, I am now been called as " Ah Soh " or " Aunty " loh......................
Life has changed tremendously after married. For example :
1. Shopping still on, just that visit different stalls. Previously, I went shopping at Mid Valley for shirts, blouses, pants, skirts and etc; now I go Tesco or Giant or Carrefour to compare prices on vegetables, canned food, garlic, milk, Milo and etc.
2. Lunch time : Previously during lunch time I always think of a new place / restaurant to bring my colleagues over for new food or new exploration but now, lunch hour, I have no time to even eat but to buy grocery things or to prepare for my dinner by going to MyDin or Giant to do shopping.
3. Previously, during weekends, I sleep till late and do nothing / go shopping / go for good food / movie, but now Saturday and Sunday is my busy day on house work, cleaning, washing, sweeping, cooking, ironing, mopping and etc.
Not only the above, there are real a lot of difference between a single life and a married life. How to get used to another family's culture ? How to be a good wife and daughter-in-law ? How to be tolerance and compromised between each other ? How to control my emotion towards unhappy things happened in life and so forth.
Have been married and staying at a new house, I still remember, for the first night in the new house, I cried like hell, so sad, so pityful and so unhappy. Just for a simple reason : I missed my parents, I missed my brother, I have home sick ! Coz I didn't feel the same love in the new house. Things changed too fast until I can't cope and get used to it.
A lot of tears have been flowing through my face recently - all over some small minor issues in life............. I got to really learn how to be tolerance, compromise and be happy towards my new life.
Time to go home to cook now, got to keep my blowing feeling for next time.
Cheers ! Hope all my family members and friends are happy !!!
Really a lot of things happen recently in life. My last update on the Blog was far behind on 3rd August 2007 where I am still a girl and now, I am writing at an identity of Mrs Wong. Yes ! Within this half year, from August 2007 till May 2008, I have made a very big decision for my life - to marry a man !!!
Hhahhahaa............. as such, I am now no longer " Miss " or ' Girl ', I am a woman ( real woman ) whom carrying someone's surname in front of mine. Or in Chinese, I am now been called as " Ah Soh " or " Aunty " loh......................
Life has changed tremendously after married. For example :
1. Shopping still on, just that visit different stalls. Previously, I went shopping at Mid Valley for shirts, blouses, pants, skirts and etc; now I go Tesco or Giant or Carrefour to compare prices on vegetables, canned food, garlic, milk, Milo and etc.
2. Lunch time : Previously during lunch time I always think of a new place / restaurant to bring my colleagues over for new food or new exploration but now, lunch hour, I have no time to even eat but to buy grocery things or to prepare for my dinner by going to MyDin or Giant to do shopping.
3. Previously, during weekends, I sleep till late and do nothing / go shopping / go for good food / movie, but now Saturday and Sunday is my busy day on house work, cleaning, washing, sweeping, cooking, ironing, mopping and etc.
Not only the above, there are real a lot of difference between a single life and a married life. How to get used to another family's culture ? How to be a good wife and daughter-in-law ? How to be tolerance and compromised between each other ? How to control my emotion towards unhappy things happened in life and so forth.
Have been married and staying at a new house, I still remember, for the first night in the new house, I cried like hell, so sad, so pityful and so unhappy. Just for a simple reason : I missed my parents, I missed my brother, I have home sick ! Coz I didn't feel the same love in the new house. Things changed too fast until I can't cope and get used to it.
A lot of tears have been flowing through my face recently - all over some small minor issues in life............. I got to really learn how to be tolerance, compromise and be happy towards my new life.
Time to go home to cook now, got to keep my blowing feeling for next time.
Cheers ! Hope all my family members and friends are happy !!!
Friday, August 3, 2007
Wakin's Concert 2007 - Birthday Gift neh !!!
14th July 2007 - Another Fun and Memorable Saturday
My 2007 Birthday's Gift - Wakin 2007 Concert Ticket !!!
Birthday gift from whom ? Of course it's from my beloved boyfriend loh .............. who else ???
At the entrance gate to the concert hall of Bukit Jalil, the security was very tight and they don't allow people to bring cameras into the hall. No pictures allowed. That's why me and my boyfriend were not so dare to take pictures while the concert is on.
Can you see my idiol - Emil Chau's face from the three big screens ????
My boyfriend already tried his very best to take some shots but still, not clear and can't zoom to see Wakin's face clearly. It was really a fun night with Wakin. The concert started at 8.15pm and as people know, Wakin's concert is very much value for money because he will for sure extend the concert till late.
As expected, he announced at 12 midnight that his concert only start now !!!! Ha Ha Hah............. Really ' siow ' eh .................. But of course, we all enjoy very much ! The reason why he announced the concert only start at 12 midnight is because from 8.15pm till 11.30pm, he sang all the unknown or not popular songs until my boyfriend said, wow lau eh !!! Sat there for 3 hours, but still don't know how to sing one song, my God, it's quite impossible for Wakin, such a popular and well known singer that his fans don't know how to sing his songs.
But it's true, at the beginning stage, it's quite disappointing that he chose all his not popular songs to sing and make all of us really just sit there and observing only. Luckily, after the real concert started at 12 midnight, still we feel it's quite worth for money. The concert ends at 1.15am and I poor the event organiser - Axcess for being compound by Bukit Jalil for paying the penalty due to late hand over of venue. Ha ha ha !!!
Thank you, my dear boyfriend for such a good and thoughtful birthday gift of year 2007 !!! I enjoyed it very much and I do appreciated very much what you have done for me. Thank you !!!!
My Members at Toastmasters TLI Training
28th July 2007 - A Saturday with Toastmasters Members At TLI Training
This Saturday, 7 of the Exco Members of MII Toastmasters Club were at HELP University Building for the TLI Training. Because of full attendance of 7 Exco Members, our Club received a special award and recognition from the Division W. Ha !
Bravo, MII TMC Exco !!!!
These are my Exco Members, from left : My VPE - Leong, my VPPR, Official Photographer, Designer - Ho, myself, my Founder - Mohamad and my SAA - Monsieur. The other two lady Exco - Joyce and Levine left earlier, so they were not in the photo.
Photo on the left : Mike Teng, one of my Club's and Division's star Toastmaster - the third handsome guy from the right.
Photo on the right : Our Division W Governor - Azmi, fourth person from the left.
In fact, my lovely boyfriend also with me in the training. Just that the event is too formal and official for us to be together, I didn't have chance to take a photo with him. After the training, I rushed to my bf's house to have dinner with his family members and relatives at PJ Paris Restaurant. So shamed that have to make all his relatives and family members to wait for me because the training ended quite late and traffic jam. So ' pai seh ' !!!
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Port Dickson Family Outing
9th June 2007, my whole family went to Port Dickson for a family outing !!!
A 2 Days 1 Night Retreat to celebrate Father's Day 2007 !
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My boyfriend, myself, my youngest sister's father-in-law and my father. We have steamboat that night at the rent apartment, first in my life time, a vacation department, without water supply and we still manage to eat steamboat ............. by how ? Use the mineral water that we bought to cook loh...................My mum has a ' memorable' painful trip this time because during we were having our steamboat time, my sister - Siew Bee accidently pour the hot soup on her shoulder and immediately, her nice white snow skin became burning red and next day, a big whole skin peel off. Poor her !
The next day morning, we went to the beach for swimming session. This is me and my lovely boyfriend !!!! 
Hey, dear, why people take photo so nice one ???? I also want that kind of pose....................
This is my eldest sister - a mother of two
kids !!!! Still look very young ya ..............
many people said she is my yonger sister coz
she has a smaller body size and she looks
younger than me .................. Pretty neh ???
This is my 13-year-old brother, my father's
only son !He is at his teenage now and always
talk about girlfriend and boyfriend ! Ha !
Zai, what are you doing ? " Ta Kong Fu " arr ?
only son !He is at his teenage now and always
talk about girlfriend and boyfriend ! Ha !
Zai, what are you doing ? " Ta Kong Fu " arr ?
Sweet Bee & Lian Fung What are you doing, my dear ? Are you
trying to ' bong da jiao ' arr ?
Hahhahaha............
trying to ' bong da jiao ' arr ?
Hahhahaha............
Photo on the Left : Another two lovely couples - Da Jie, Venice and my brother-in-law, Dickson Tan. This is Vjinn's parents loh !
Photo on the Right : Wow ! CK, how I admired you, you have such a strong girlfriend who can put you on her back neh ..................... so fun !!!!
We, the Lim's Family daughters and the only son ! This is me and my sweetheart loh !!!
Three couples with a small lilttle princess ................................
What are you doing, Bee ? Dancing in the middle of the sea ???? See, these three ' leng lui ', who is the most ' leng lui ' one ?????
Lian Fung, another Kung Fu pose again ? Although the weather is so hot, but we are so
happy leh .......................
The happy model family .......................... And this is the handsome model, without comb his hair, without shaving, eventhough without smile on his face, he still looks so handsome and attractive.................. haahahhahaa.............................
Friday, July 13, 2007
13th July 2007 - A Day To Remember !!!
13th July 2007, Friday - A day which I am real happy ................. it's simply because I have finally made up my mind to quit from my miserable work - my April Fool mistake !
Let's track back the record - I started a new job this year with a very reputable organisation which I dreamed and eagerly want to work for them. Finally, I got the job and I started my new career journey on April Fool Day - 1st April 2007. And, like the day says, it's a real big April Fool for me. ( I am actually not a very superstitious person whom believe in all this ' good day ' or ' bad day ' says ............. but for this, it really seems like next time, if I started something else, a good day must be chosen first ............. ha !)
My miserable day started on the April Fool Day ................ for the first three weeks, I already cannot ' tahan ' with the working culture in that organisation. People there seems like non-educated and non-civilisation....................... ( please forgive me to use these rude words ). Can't imagine these things still happening in such a reputable organisation ( from an outsider's point of view before I joined them ) : -
* Department Head doesn't even know how to use simple Excel
To me, I found it very unbelievable & a lot of ' surprises ' in many things happened in this organisation. For example, after a big conference, there are what happen : -
* Three or Four laptops missing after the conference
* Staff scolded the participants loudly in front of the public
* Staff ignored participants' enquiries by only telling them one ' magic ' word - " I don't know "
* Project Head told a speaker flying purposely from another country, sitting in the plane for more than 20 hours, and on his presentation day, 2 hours before his session, he only found out that his name is not in the Programme and Project Head just tell him : " You are too junior to be on the stage for this session because you are the representative nominated by the original speaker, so, you may give us what you have prepared and we might post it up to the website after the conference. There is no presentation session allocated for you this time. "
* Project Head didn't mentioned clearly in the Programme of a specific session which held at another place from the Convention Center. Early in the morning, a group of 20 foreign participants from Pakistan were at the Secretariat Room asking where is the session room for that particular session. Project Head just tell it's a building which is about 20 minutes away from the Convention Centre, shuttle coach left much earlier without making any announcement, and the group made noise. Project Head just tell one thing, again, one ' magic ' phrase ' : " You don't know how to read the Programme arr ???? "
* Only photostate Programme at the night before and make all staff sleepless night
* Only do insertion on the morning itself, kelam kabut
* Use manual registration method for name tags searching. Half or more than half of the participants can't find their names and at last, just use hand writing to prepare new name tags
* Staff are always the first person who standing in front of all the food counters for food and beverages
* Staff are always the first person who have priority to choose all the sponsored gifts and items
* Staff keep all the good sponsored gifts to themselves rather than give it to participants
* Staff are always have priority in reserved table for food, regardless if the participants have seats or not
* Staff ask for big plastic bags from F & B staff to pack food back home without shy, if no plastic, then they use envelope, standing in front of the food counter and pack the food.
My God, all these small small things make all the participants long faces and went back with complaints only. How to get job satisfaction from this kind of lowsy organisation where only received complaints from clients but never have compliments ?
I claimed myself a Professional Conference Organiser all this while and I have been in this field for about 5 years, never in my history or record that this kind of silly things happened. But it happened this year while I was with this company where the whole 5 days during the conference period, everyday I also get scolded by the participants, speakers, sponsors for lowsy management.
As my boyfriend's say, yes, it's not my fault of all this mistakes, but come on, I am wearing the Secretariat name tag running around the hall, and when people get angry, as long as they see the Secretariat people, they just don't care and just shout at you !!! It's simply I am one of the Organiser, as simple as that.
I hate to be scolded without any reasons, I hate to see all the long faces standing behind the counters, I hate people said I am not professional while I have already done my part professionally....................
I know clearly this is not the place where I can stand, the way they work is exactly like the government department, only one ' magic' word - " I don't know " !!! My god !!!
My boyfriend, my lovely boyfriend, don't know how much my big boss paid him for persuading me to stay on and give another chances, I listened to him and I accepted his sweet talk. I stayed for another big project. Alright, same things happened, same complaints repeated and repeated. I can't stand anymore, I can't stand everyday in the office, colleagues are only spending long hours to write email to scold another colleague and cc the big boss rather than spend the time in planning and at work, I can't stand between colleagues, are only politics and complaints, never have nice words about someone but only complaints and bad words about someone, I can't stand everyday everyone are so scared because don't know if today a good day where the boss is having a good mood, if not, too bad lah !!! Everyone kena scold without any reason, just because she is not in a good mood, I can't stand everyday hearing someone shoutly at each other or sending win pop to the whole office just because a small matter like there is some Milo stains on the pantry. My God, can't you all just spend these time at work and plan for a more organised conference, rather than scolding each other, playing politics or just get scolded by all the unhappy participants ?????
I don't understand, I really don't understand why the big boss can stand all these things happened. He knew, just that he doesn't want to get involved and he chose to be quiet.
Finally, I handed in my resignation letter by giving them 24 hours notice, and I left !!! Hurray !!!! How happy my last day in the company where I know, from that moment onwards, I was free from all these ' April Fool ' thinggy and I won't get myself fool again.
Bravo ! 13th July 2007, after a 3 and a half month suffering, I get my Independence Day again !!!! Although I didn't get support from my boyfriend, family members and even Toastmasters members.......................................
Hurray ! Hurray ! Hurray !!!
Let's track back the record - I started a new job this year with a very reputable organisation which I dreamed and eagerly want to work for them. Finally, I got the job and I started my new career journey on April Fool Day - 1st April 2007. And, like the day says, it's a real big April Fool for me. ( I am actually not a very superstitious person whom believe in all this ' good day ' or ' bad day ' says ............. but for this, it really seems like next time, if I started something else, a good day must be chosen first ............. ha !)
My miserable day started on the April Fool Day ................ for the first three weeks, I already cannot ' tahan ' with the working culture in that organisation. People there seems like non-educated and non-civilisation....................... ( please forgive me to use these rude words ). Can't imagine these things still happening in such a reputable organisation ( from an outsider's point of view before I joined them ) : -
* Department Head doesn't even know how to use simple Excel
To me, I found it very unbelievable & a lot of ' surprises ' in many things happened in this organisation. For example, after a big conference, there are what happen : -
* Three or Four laptops missing after the conference
* Staff scolded the participants loudly in front of the public
* Staff ignored participants' enquiries by only telling them one ' magic ' word - " I don't know "
* Project Head told a speaker flying purposely from another country, sitting in the plane for more than 20 hours, and on his presentation day, 2 hours before his session, he only found out that his name is not in the Programme and Project Head just tell him : " You are too junior to be on the stage for this session because you are the representative nominated by the original speaker, so, you may give us what you have prepared and we might post it up to the website after the conference. There is no presentation session allocated for you this time. "
* Project Head didn't mentioned clearly in the Programme of a specific session which held at another place from the Convention Center. Early in the morning, a group of 20 foreign participants from Pakistan were at the Secretariat Room asking where is the session room for that particular session. Project Head just tell it's a building which is about 20 minutes away from the Convention Centre, shuttle coach left much earlier without making any announcement, and the group made noise. Project Head just tell one thing, again, one ' magic ' phrase ' : " You don't know how to read the Programme arr ???? "
* Only photostate Programme at the night before and make all staff sleepless night
* Only do insertion on the morning itself, kelam kabut
* Use manual registration method for name tags searching. Half or more than half of the participants can't find their names and at last, just use hand writing to prepare new name tags
* Staff are always the first person who standing in front of all the food counters for food and beverages
* Staff are always the first person who have priority to choose all the sponsored gifts and items
* Staff keep all the good sponsored gifts to themselves rather than give it to participants
* Staff are always have priority in reserved table for food, regardless if the participants have seats or not
* Staff ask for big plastic bags from F & B staff to pack food back home without shy, if no plastic, then they use envelope, standing in front of the food counter and pack the food.
My God, all these small small things make all the participants long faces and went back with complaints only. How to get job satisfaction from this kind of lowsy organisation where only received complaints from clients but never have compliments ?
I claimed myself a Professional Conference Organiser all this while and I have been in this field for about 5 years, never in my history or record that this kind of silly things happened. But it happened this year while I was with this company where the whole 5 days during the conference period, everyday I also get scolded by the participants, speakers, sponsors for lowsy management.
As my boyfriend's say, yes, it's not my fault of all this mistakes, but come on, I am wearing the Secretariat name tag running around the hall, and when people get angry, as long as they see the Secretariat people, they just don't care and just shout at you !!! It's simply I am one of the Organiser, as simple as that.
I hate to be scolded without any reasons, I hate to see all the long faces standing behind the counters, I hate people said I am not professional while I have already done my part professionally....................
I know clearly this is not the place where I can stand, the way they work is exactly like the government department, only one ' magic' word - " I don't know " !!! My god !!!
My boyfriend, my lovely boyfriend, don't know how much my big boss paid him for persuading me to stay on and give another chances, I listened to him and I accepted his sweet talk. I stayed for another big project. Alright, same things happened, same complaints repeated and repeated. I can't stand anymore, I can't stand everyday in the office, colleagues are only spending long hours to write email to scold another colleague and cc the big boss rather than spend the time in planning and at work, I can't stand between colleagues, are only politics and complaints, never have nice words about someone but only complaints and bad words about someone, I can't stand everyday everyone are so scared because don't know if today a good day where the boss is having a good mood, if not, too bad lah !!! Everyone kena scold without any reason, just because she is not in a good mood, I can't stand everyday hearing someone shoutly at each other or sending win pop to the whole office just because a small matter like there is some Milo stains on the pantry. My God, can't you all just spend these time at work and plan for a more organised conference, rather than scolding each other, playing politics or just get scolded by all the unhappy participants ?????
I don't understand, I really don't understand why the big boss can stand all these things happened. He knew, just that he doesn't want to get involved and he chose to be quiet.
Finally, I handed in my resignation letter by giving them 24 hours notice, and I left !!! Hurray !!!! How happy my last day in the company where I know, from that moment onwards, I was free from all these ' April Fool ' thinggy and I won't get myself fool again.
Bravo ! 13th July 2007, after a 3 and a half month suffering, I get my Independence Day again !!!! Although I didn't get support from my boyfriend, family members and even Toastmasters members.......................................
Hurray ! Hurray ! Hurray !!!
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