Christmas 2008 SURPRISE

" We wish you a Merry Christmas, We wish you a Merry Christmas, We wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year !!! "

Yeah !!! Christmas is just around the corner !!!

All the shopping malls in town have decorated their halls nicely with all the Christmas trees, decorations and accessories. This Christmas, year 2008, there are one " Soh Poh ", one day, she told her loved one that : " Dear, how nice it will be if our home sweet home also could have a Christmas tree like the shopping mall ! " Then, she starts thinking and dreaming............ and He just keep quiet and silent .................

One afternoon, without any planning and out of sudden, they were in IKEA, their favourite place for household items................... hmmm.................... and without realisation, He became more excited and interested to buy a Christmas Tree to decorate their home sweet home. She insisted to just buy a small tree for this year, and only next year we buy a big Christmas Tree, but he insisted that : " No, we buy the 6 feet one. "

With this, He happily and excitedly, running all around IKEA Market Hall - Home Organisation Department to pick up all the necessary items for their tree - their First Christmas Tree, and it's a gift to his loved one as Christmas gift. She was so happy and touched !!!

Firstly, it's just a bold tree, with his excitement, running here and there, jumping up and down, between IKEA and The Curve, He finally chose all the necessary. He bought a lot, She thinks it's too much, but He still feel not enough, still excitedly looking for more accessories for their first Christmas Tree. He became more excited than Her now.

And, by the time they reached home, after a 10 hours shopping at One Utama and IKEA, they started to upbuild the tree and started to decorate their First Christmas Tree. After 1 hour plus of hardworking installation and decoration, the below is the ' result ', haahahahahaa................ not bad ya, their First and only Christmas Tree.

See this !!!



Sorry, due to the photo shooting skill of the photographer, she not managed to take the whole tree with lights on, this is the best that she could do, so in order not to be missed out all the nice scene, She purposely posted more photos for you to see, just in case you can't see it.

See it carefully, all the photos are also different, with different lights on and effect. It will be very nice if you could pay a visit to their house and see it personally.




Nice ? He build up the whole tree and She is responsible on all the accessories. Not easy leh, got to make one by one the accessories, got to put in the string to the balls, the bells, the Santa Clause and etc. In total, she has already hook on 109 items with strings. Not easy leh !!! See so simple, a lot of hardworks behind leh.

After first installation, She feels not good enough, then she went to buy the wrapping papers, planning to wrap up all the boxes as gifts to place it under the tree ( not yet done, ha ! ), and she also bought more accessories to hook on the tree, and He also add in a few Teddy Bears imported from Australia to hug the tree. So nice, so warm, so happy, to see this Chrsitmas gift from the loved one.

I think the most happier thing is the process of choosing the gifts and tree + accessories together, to do it together, the process is very important and enjoying.

So, they finished the installation and decoration at about 1am and went to bed after that. The next day, early in the morning, She is too excited and still very very happy about it, until can't sleep, so she woke up at 6.30am and woke Him up too, both them sit at the living hall, on the floor, looking at the blinking Christmas Tree, really " Soh Poh " & " Soh Loh " lah !!!! hahahhhahhahhahhh.......................



Originally, she thought to give him a Christmas gift - the Mama Mia Show ticket, but due to delay in buying the tickets, they only managed to buy the 3rd January 2009 ticket. It costs RM 203.00 per person per ticket for a 2 hours show, but with His Enrich Card, we get a discounted ticket at RM 183.00 per pax.

So, this is Her Christmas Gift to Him, although She enjoyed and loved the Mama Mia Show more than Him, but He used to say, as long as she is happy, He is also happy mah, so, She happy, He happy loh !!! hahahhhhhahahaa.......................



Then, one evening, out of sudden, at Tesco Taman Midah, while She is choosing a birthday cake for her good friend - Grace at King's Cake House, He suddenly came by and bought Her a lovely Christmas gift again. What a surprise !!!!

See this, guess what is it ???

From Famous Amos, His favourite brand of cookies.

Deng deng deng deng !!!! It's a lovely small baby bear with chocolate, His favourite too !!!! hahhahahhahaa

Cute leh, the bear ! So nice and so lovely. He said to Her : " I bought you a lovely Daddy Bear last year, and this year I bought you a baby Teddy Bear, then you got to born me a baby soon loh ! " So sweet, so lovely, so nice, so sweet....................................... hmmmmm................. kiss kiss, my dear Lao Kong !!!!

See again, this shoot, the eyes bigger.

And the HE that I mentioned, it's HIM loh !!!!

My lovely cute and nice and the best Lao Kong in the world !!!!

Thank you Lao Kong for giving me such a " Xin Fu " Christmas !!! Last year, you married me during Christmas Eve at our Registration Ceremony, and this year, you gave me such a big gift, A nice Christmas Tree with Teddy Daddy Bear !!!!

Dear, what's next year plan ???? I give you a baby teddy bear ?????? hhahahahhhhha.............................

I love you forever, my dearest Lao Kong !!!!!

Wedding 177 Days Anniversary Dinner

Hi, my dear and all my friends, on the 177 days after we got married, co-incidently my hubby was away in Vietnam on business trip for 3 days and he returned home right on the 24th September 2008 night, and I decided to cook him a home made ' warm ' dinner.

I missed him so much, so rather than doing nothing waiting him home from airport, I prepared him a dinner, a not romantic but full of love dinner.

Simple dinner with home cooked food :

Food :
1. Fried Seafood Tau Foo - His favourite
2. Fried Tau Geh with ginger, " lap cheong " & garlic
3. Steamed Egg with " Tong Choi "
4. Pork Balls fried with onions & " hou yao "
5. Steamed White Rice

Beverage :
1. Soya Bean with ice


My dear really eat a lot tonight, don't know why, maybe he is too hungry, or maybe my cooking is too delicious, or maybe he purposely want to make me happy and eat so much. Whatever it is, I am happy that he like my food. Lao Kong, I love you !!!



P/S : I only decided to cook him dinner after work, when I am on my way home, quickly ran to Kuchai Lama Pasar Malam to buy the vegetable and cook for him. It's a last minute arrangement, that's why no soup loh. My Lao Kong loves my soup, lao kong ya !

It's a simple dinner for our 177 days after wedding celebration. My Lao Kong treated me so nice tonight as he volunteered in helping to throw rubbish, to clean table, and the most important thing is, he kiss me twice without my request !!! hahhahahahahhha.................... Lao Kong, with your appreciation, I will cook you more delicious food next time, alright ?

Another observation from my Lao Kong recently, don't know why, he likes to thank me for all the things I did for him, he says " Thank you " to me oftenly. Everytime he mentioned " Thank You ", I also feel so happy coz I can really feel his appreciation. My Lao Kong is a guy who doesn't simply say thank you to anyone, unless he is really feeling so and appreciate.

Thank you, Lao Kong !!!!

Something For My Lovely Hubby

It has been long time, I didn't write to you, my hubby

It has been quite sometime back, we both last write to each other

It has been more than 177 days back, I didn't received your love letter anymore

Letters seems lesser and lesser since we married

Words becomes verbal

Using hand to write becomes using mouth to communicate

Still remember what I have told you earlier

To me, a piece of paper and a pen, is my best friend, my best communication tools

Rather than using my mouth, without notice, un-intentionally, someone might get hurt

Not purposely, it's unintentionally........................

It's me, words always come out faster than my thinking

Wise man says, think three times before you throw out any words from your mouth

Maybe this is the reason why I am not wise enough, hahhaahhahaha................

Dear, I am very very happy this two weeks, especially this week

Don't know why, maybe because we have a real good and relax weekend last week, maybe

Even my friends, can also feel my happiness through my msn with them, ha ! They are all so concern, sensitive and alert on my emotion

Or maybe I am too true for them to sense it ................

Since we got married, I think this is the 4th time you went oversea for business purpose

Too long, it has really been too long, you never leave for so long

Too far, it has really been too far away you go

I missed you, I missed you so much, I really missed you

Time seems passed too slow, time seems freeze till I doubt if my watch is not functioning

So happy, that, this evening, another few more hours, I can see you again

Welcome back, dear ! Welcome back !!!!

Real looking forward to seeing you soon, in another 4 hours......................................

Feeling Like Writing Something Today

Today, feeling like writing something ...................

Received a sms last night, an old old friends sent me his blog and invite me to pay a visit. Took a look at it. Hmmmm.................... quite well done, quite good piece of articles, just that everything is about politics, except one particular one which is about his ex-boss, for that particular sharing, I quite like it.

Don't know why, since years back, I don't really like politics, and I particular don't like those involved into politic fields. To me, it's just too dirty, it's just too playful, it's just too dramatic, too fake, too artificial, nothing is true. Now, I myself consider a part of it, although the whole team in my company tring to deny that we ARE not involved in political thinggy, but nonetheless, the image that we have in the public, is something that we can't avoid or deny. What to do ????

Everytime, when people ask what do you do ? After I answered, the next question must be, which company are you working for ? My god ! After my answer, the sure next question : Ong Kah Ting, your boss arr ? You work for MCA arr ? You are MCA member arr ???? Hey, I hate this. I work in this company is because I like what I am doing, or rather to say that, I like the campaign concept.

The more I involved in my work, the more I realised that it's nearly impossible to achieve what I want to achieve here. It's totally not what I expect from the original, what I want to do is quite far away, coz everything has its hidden agenda. It's a political games, it has its all reasons to do what it wants.

Recently, after ' freezing ' my boss, it seems like it's no more fun working in this company, want to resign, don't know where to go, what can I do. Not resign, don't know what's the meaning of continuing working here. For no reason, every morning, come to office, thinking of 6pm, waiting to go home. Really has no fun, this kind of life style.

Hmmmm.................... where am I now ? Hey, I should talk about my friend who has just started a new blog, not about myself.

My this friend, he is still very ' hot ' and enthusiastic about his launching of the new blog, I think it's first time for him to write a blog. Quite good response, some regular friends are with him, support him and be his ' blog ' fans. Response actively to his sharing and comment. Good start ! Keep it up ! I write this purposely to encourage him to continue his blog, anyway, it's also for a particular political reason - hidden agenda too..................................

Well, " Jia You " !!!! Keep up the good work, my friend !!! All the best !!!

Birthday Celebration 29.06.2008

Cheers !!! For me and my hubby ! Thanks Bee for being so detailed and caring, to prepare the cake and champagne. A surprise from the car booth !!!!

Picture 1 : This is my birthday lunch at one of the Chinese restaurants in Sungai Besar, a good lunch for 4 pax! Fried squid, my hubby's favourite, shark fin soup, sweet and sour crab with bun, thai style spicy steam fish and vegetable.

Picture 2 : See, CK is so good to help us to put the message into the bottle, he tried so hard to close the bottle and make sure no water will go in. Thanks CK for the hard work and thanks Bee for the great idea !!! It's really an unforgetable birthday celebration !!!

See this message written by the birthday girl, we put this piece of paper into the bottle, throw it into the sea, let it go wherever it wants, if someone pick it up and can understand what I have written, then will call me back, ha ! I think one day if I received such call, don't know where the caller will call from ? Hahhahahhaha.................... really ' soh ' !

This is really the ' Soh Loh ' and ' Soh Poh ' !!! Looking at the sky for what ?????

See my lao kong, so feminine, leg up, hand up leh .................................


Jump, jump, the photographer says, jump until he is happy with our action..................


No, dear, the photographer says look at the same direction, to the right lah .................... not left


Now, the photographer said, hey, ' Soh Poh ' or " Fei Poh ", jump higher lah ....................


This is real ugly ................... really ugly ................. yeak !!!!



The rice production factory ............. behind me are all the raw rice .......................


Wow ! Like holding gold sands on our hand .......................


My cute hubby !!!


His favourite post........................ ahahahahahhaa..................look at the sky ..................


How nice is this ? How many people can do this ???? hahhahahhaha..................



I have been throw birthday cake on my face by CK


Ever seen such big sunflower ????


The sunflower from Sekinchan .........................


Again, in the rice factory


Why repeat the almost same photo ?????




All of us at the singing restaurant, first time for Uncle Philip to come to such restaurant. It's also first time we celebrated our family's member birthday at a ' kwai lou ' restaurant !!! hahahhaa........... something different and special, I like it !!!



This is my birthday lunch at Sungai Besar - seafood cheap lunch !!! Shark Fin's Soup, my favourite crab with hot crispy bun, Asam Steam Fish, Vegetable and fried Sotong, yummy, yummy, only costs RM 118.00, unbelievable !!!! It's " Zhong Tai Seafood Restaurant " at Sungai Besar ! Go try it ! No regret one ! Cheap and Nice ! Recommended by Jin Xi, a friend from Sungai Besar.


This is the after burned rice field......... all black ..................... the model is about to jump, but the photographer says : " Hey, no 'sian' meh, only jump all the time "


Apple tree ................ in Sekinchan






Last year, today - 29.06.2007, I was with my boyfriend having dinner at Basil Leaf and he is proposing to me to marry him; this year, the same day - 29.06.2008, he is already my husband with 3 months married life. How fast time has passed !!!! Scary, man !!!

This year, my hubby brought me to Sabak Bernam for my birthday celebration. It's actually my suggestion. His original suggestion is Genting Highlands, a very commercial place which I don't like, so finally we chose to go for natural - paddy field and fishing village !

Our routing for that day is : OUG Home - Cheras Bee's House - Kepong Breakfast - Lembah Beringin ( Wrong Way ) - Bukit Pagar ( Wrong Way ) - Kuala Selangor - Tanjung Karang - Sekinchan - Sungai Besar - Sabak Bernam - then back to KL.

Some photo to share, it's a pity that I have forgotten to take picture for our dim-sum breakfast at Tuck Kee Kepong, nothing special, just for memory keeping purpose.



Uncle Philip Wong and his family bought a cake for us for the celebration. Thanks, Uncle Philip !!!

All of us at Kaki Corner Western Restaurant - mama's suggestion for a western style birthday celebration, something different !



Me and my Mr Right - a very very real nice Lao Kong !!!



My aunt - mother's sister - Ah Mei celebrated with us !




This is Judy - Philip's wife and my pretty mum !!!!



Uncle Philip who introduced Toastmasters for me and my ' leng chai ' father !!!!

Speechless...................

Dear, don't know since when, we both are speechless............................... we can't talk to each other anymore, once we start a conversation, we sure get involved with fights and quarrels at the end. What's wrong actually ? I really want to find out why. I really eagerly wanted to know what has go wrong with both of us.

Everytime, when I am in the office, I missed you so much and have a lot of things wanted to talk to you, but when I am homed, I see you with your long unhappy face, I have nothing to say already. Or else, after I made one statement, like my whole body was so pain, then you replied with " It's okay, go and take bath, it will go well. ". For these kind of answers, I really felt so scared and worried that how shall I formed my sentence and talked to you.

Like just now, you called me and I was so happy to answer your call and we talk happily at the beginning, but suddenly, the chemical becomes wrong suddenly and the ' war smell ' getting serious and serious, and again, we ended up with an unhappy ending of conversation again. I don't hope to have such feeling towards you, dear ! How I missed our previous time, those happy time where we can really talk anything that we like, without any hassle, without any quarrel. I really missed that !

Like Wednesday night, I eagerly waiting you to be homed and would like you to take me to pasar malam to buy fruits, we were so happy all the while until you saw the old newspapers that I took out, your face started getting black and long face, and the ' jek, jek, jek ' sound comes out already. I really HATE the ' jek, jek, jek ' sounds. Why you want to do that to me ? What's so worng with me to take those old newspapers to throw ? The old newspapers have been disturbing me from my cooking and even for me to place something on top of it, because it's too many and too high, I can't even place those woks that I washed for drying purpose. What's so wrong with it for taking it down to throw before we go for dinner ? It's really distracting. I don't know, because of this very small thing, just that 1 second, our whole night screwed up !!!! I ate my dinner with tears in my eyes and pain in my heart. I can't slept for two continous nights already. The first night, you slept in the living hall, when I asked you to come in to the room to sleep, you " jek, jek, jek " again, I really hate that ! And the worst thing, after you ' jek, jek, jek ', you went out from the room and slept in the couch. I slept alone in the bed with tears that night .................. At 3.50am, I woke up and heard the TV sounds in the living room is so loud and you were not beside me, I knew you must have the TV to accompany you to sleep. I went out, looked at you, you slept well at the couch, I think twice and stunned for a while, if I shall call you to go into the room to sleep, I told myself, better don't coz just now experienced once already, kena scold and get the very heart pained feeling. So, I was so sad and don't like to see you sleeping alone in the living hall, I switched off the TV, lights off and go back to the bedroom to sleep. Tried my very best to sleep again, but can't, until you walked into the room at about 6am.

Second night, Wednesday night, was real sad, even for such a beautiful place for romantic dinner, I ate the dinner so hard and difficult, and can't sleep. Woke up again at 3.30am till morning. Was really thinking on what was happening between us. I was so curious and so upset, I love you so much, I love you more than before I married you, I asked myself, I tried my very best to perform the wife's duty, I tried my best to be a good wife, but then how come our relationship is getting worst and worst ????? A lot of questions in my mind ................ why, why and why ?????

You started come home late, it's ok, I waited you. You started become speechless................... we eat breakfast together on the same table by sitting next to each other so close, but yet our feeling was so far away. No one talking, it's a speechless morning & breakfast. You started have no topics to talk to me, you stared to stare at my at a very weird face expression, you started to keep quiet and don't know what to talk to me. Why, dear ? Can't we open up and discuss it. By hiding it, the balls will row bigger and bigger, I started feeling insecure about our relationship already, I started become so worried and so anxiety about our relationship. We got to do something about it before it is too late, dear ! Come on, we have been married only for 2 months .................................... That morning, I went office with two big panda bengkak eyes after long time crying .........................

I know, it's not only me suffering from the situation, you too, I can see from your face that you are not happy too, you are very unhappy, you too feeling not comfortable with me. Come on, let's work this out hand in hand, we still have a long journey to walk through together, we still have many many years to live together, please, dear, let's do something about it, do let me know what can we both do to enhance the situation and make both us back to those days us - the happy us !!!

For my side, from my very limited knowledge and experience, I really have no idea on how to handle this situation. The only thing that I have done for us is to pay and registered for a workshop for both us to attend, the one that I have mentioned to you earlier, the Thean Hou Temple call that you received this morning. I know completely that you hate this kind of workshop or talk, to you, it's a waste of time coz you know all the theory part. But then, dear, give me suggestion, do share with me what can we do to improve our relationship. I can only think of if we can't solve our problem, we listen to others and see how they solved theiw problems and we learn from there. What say you ?

Please, I beg you, please do not give up, please do not become speechless, please do not not to talk to me, please don't leave me sleep alone in the room, the feeling is too terrible, like get dump by someone, no one want me anymore, so pittyful and lost feeling. Really................... dear, give me a signal that you have read this and do agreed to work this out hand in hand for both benefits, ok ??????

Hope to hear from you by telling me that " Yes, lao poh, let's find out together how can we solve the problem, let's work hand in hand tightly to overcome this challenge. " I wait for you ........................

Not sure if you noticed, it has been two nights and three mornings that I didn't say " Good night, lao kong " and " Good Morning, Lao Poh " to each other already......................... I hope we can both sleep with a happy heart tonight............................


Endless Love For You from Your Lao Poh

Choice Of Words In Communication

Recently, I realised thoroughly on the importance of " Choice Of Words " in life or in communication. My current Manager, is a very knowledgeable and caring person, he always shared with us the importance of " Choice Of Word " in daily life, he emphasized it to us on and off, he practised it in his daily life, he even correct our " Choice of Words " many times.................. He acts like a Grammarian in my life, on my poor English sentence construction and vocabulary. I must thank him for being so willing to share and to correct me on my mistakes. I appreciated it very much.

From his succeed in his communication with people, his relationship with others ( ex-colleagues, people around him, anybody even cleaner or passer by like a waiter in the restaurant, he also practise his good PR and " Choice Of Word " everyday, every minutes in his daily life ). I actually learnt a lot from him and I take him as my role model in life. I exampled him as my mentor, for my problem, my language barrier, my life phylosophy and etc. Of course, he is not perfect, he also has his shortage but still, overall, he is a nice old man to be friend.

The best part of him is he likes to compliment people, he loves to praise people, no matter when, where and doing what. For example, he will praise me when he walked into office " Hey, you look very fresh this morning ! Morning fresh ! " with a smile, that's made my day ! Not because that I crave for his compliment, just that by having such statement, he makes someone feel good and really fresh.

He always start his conversation with good words / praise or compliments first. Like everytime before he starts his conversation, he will say something like this : " Your centre looks pretty neat, you must have spent a lot of time in keeping it. " or " Mr Khung, from your outlook, I believe you must be a very experienced and professional trainer who really care of self image as your first impression to me was really impressive ! ". Things like this, really make people feel fantastic !!!

He is good at this skill. I really learnt a lot from him secretly and after working with him for sometime, I noticed that I started care and mind my language already. I will notice sometime after I said something, I found that I could construct my sentence in a better phrase and make the people who is listening to me to feel better, eventhough for a comment or recommendation to others, we could also tell it in a very sweet way. Aren't we learn this from Toastmasters too ??? Yes, we learnt how to give constructive feedback to members, we learn to evaluate people in a nice way, not white washing, but a real sincere feedback without hiding any facts, the real message have been conveyed and at the same time, didn't hurt people.

I try to sharpen my " Choice of Word " in my daily communication too in order not to hurt the people around me, especially my hubby !!! This morning, I got hurt again by his sharp words................... " My mum only has one box, you don't even can tolerant with this ? " What is this .............. I took so much trouble and effort, sweat, pain to clean up the Store Room, at the end, I got only this comment from my loved one. How hurt it is ???? Aren't we both also Toastmasters, aren't we practise what we learn in Toastmasters in life, especially the evaluation style in Toastmasters. Still remember the " G.L.O.V.E " concept that you share with me ? Or the burger concept apply in Toastmasters ?

Dear, shall we start to practise this in our daily life too ? This is not about ruling, it's more towards a better relationship. I care of you so much, very much, that's why I care of everything you do for me, every words you say, it's not I want to give you pressure like has no even freedom to talk and have to be careful when talk to me, just that do care about my feeling, I felt hurt easily, this is because I care so much.

Many times, in the morning, I was angry with you quietly, but everytime, when I walked into our bedroom, I saw you have helped to make the bed neatly, all my anger went off immediately. The same happened this morning. Everytime I looked at the bed, I told myself, what to angry anymore ? I have such a good and caring husband, who there to help to make bed in the morning, who helped me to cut vegetable, who helps to pick up my hairs drop in the toilet, who cooked me ' yong sam sou ' when I am sick, who cared of me so much, who takes the trouble to purposely come down to the car park to fetch me, who bought my favourite fruit - Dragon Fruit for me as a surprise gift, who massage me after I finished all the house work, who washes dishes after dinner, who made cereal for me in the morning, who eats vegetables that he doesn't like, who forcely finished whatever I have cooked just to make me happy and to appreciate my effort to him, who cares so much of me, what more to complaint ? What more to comment ? I am ' xin fu ' enough to have such a husband with me for my rest of life ..............................really, dear, many times, I was so happy when I walked into our bedroom, everytime I stepped into the bathroom, really, all these small action or effort in life do counts, it counts, I feel so sweet many times because of all these small small contributions that you have done for me, it really affects, I care of all these, it makes a difference in our life, it do makes me love you more and more and more ..............................